The intention must connect with and intersect desire to cultivate a deep sense of love and gratitude towards self and others.
Forgiveness resides in Unconditional and Unlimited Love. There must be a sincere desire and pure intention to cultivate a deep dense of love, compassion, humility and gratitude
Three Levels of Forgiveness
Level I: Decisional Forgiveness, in which we are making a cognitive decision to forgive.
Level II: Emotional forgiveness, in which negative emotions, such as resentment, bitterness, hostility, hatred anger and fear are replaced with love, compassion, gratitude and humility. Emotional forgiveness provides us with the opportunity to release negative emotions.
Level III: Spiritual Forgiveness, in which we choose to become a servant to those we wish to forgive.
To Forgive and Forget
Do we really ever forget? If not, then forgiveness has not occurred. It is not a process of cognitively forgetting what took place, but rather a willingness to completely let go of the feelings and emotions we experienced. That is not to say that we allow ourselves to experience the same situation over and over, rather, we gain wisdom that provides us the tools to create a more positive experience in the future.
An unwillingness to forgive implies that we are separate from each other.
The role of a "Garbologist"
A garbologist is one who willingly takes the garbage of others and accepts the blame, regardless of the "truth," so that they may have an opportunity to shift from a negative to a more positive perspective. The shift may come in that moment or at a later time, when the person makes reflections on the situation. We should remember that there're many "truths" and that maybe that the accusations from the person may be the "truth" for him or her.
The garbologist is willing to be insulted, shamed, or yelled at without a negative response or reaction. The garbologist must be willing to remain peaceful, calm, and serene in the moment of the perceived attack.
It takes two to "tango"
Playing the role of the garbologist is an effective of diffusing a potentially hostile situation.
The role of the garbologist is one of the most honorable ways of serving others and a mission of peace.
